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| My wife Dominica has just come out, essentially for the both of us, as      |
| polyamorous. This means that although we are committed to each other, we    |
| don’t believe that this should exclude us from loving other partners        |
| too—any more than loving one of our children should exclude us from loving  |
| the other.                                                                  |
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| This isn’t a Bay Area conversion story; we’ve been open for most of our     |
| marriage, having both had several secondary partners over the years. As     |
| with any other relationships these have had their ups and downs, but at     |
| this point we (and our partners) are all feeling very happy and loved, and  |
| life is good.                                                               |
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| Our kids have learned naturally about what makes our family different from  |
| some other families, and have taken it completely in their stride as        |
| normal. Although polyamorous relationships take many forms, in our case     |
| our marriage takes primacy and we firmly remain the primary caregivers for  |
| our children.                                                               |
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| Although we are coming out together, we are not outing our other partners   |
| at this time, because that would be a separate conversation for them to     |
| have with their own families and friends. We hope that over time,           |
| polyamorous unions will continue to become more accepted, just as LGBT      |
| relationships have been.                                                    |
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| Other than the above I don’t have too much to add to what Dominica wrote,   |
| and neither do I propose to write a Poly 101 primer. But if you want to     |
| learn more about polyamory and other forms of open relationships (noting    |
| again that these take many different forms), here is a fun resource to      |
| start with.                                                                 |
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